Being Single isn’t the Worst Thing That can Happen

“Being single isn’t bad. What is bad is giving up hope on finding that someone special.” – Anonymous

I have lots of friends, some single, some married, a few are in-between relationships, while others are ‘kind of single’. What I’ve found is that many of my single friends are always seeking that special someone. There is nothing wrong with that, but settling just to be with someone is definitely not the way. Some reasons why being single are not the worst thing that can happen:

You see that couple that you admire so much? You just may never know that behind closed doors they are like strangers.
That husband/boyfriend/lover you see holding the car door for her, may just be the one beating her when you cannot see
That adoring wife, may be the most disrespectful person ever when no one sees or hears
Ever wonder why your friend has no time for you? It may not be that she or he is so smitten they don’t like to leave each other’s side, it’s because he or she is forbidden to talk to you anymore
Yes, she’s driving the most expensive car, she dresses like a supermodel, but do you know the price she pays to live that way?
Do you know the tears she shed in private and the nights she has to sleep alone even though she ‘has someone’
Have you ever wondered why he stays out as late as he can before going home?

Some Reasons Why Being Single can be Great

If you stop to think about it, there many benefits to being single; five simple ones are:

You can do what you want whenever you want
You don’t have to feel guilty about spending more time at work or studying. Single people can easily climb the corporate ladder or build their business as they worry less about taking time away from family so they can work longer hours. This also means more wealth in the long run
You can decide to stay in and not worry about a messy house
You can learn more about yourself
There is no need to compromise or give up your dreams and aspirations

I know that companionship is important, but take your time and enjoy being single. Sharing your life with someone is wonderful, but only when it’s with someone worth sharing with. Stop lamenting that you have no one to love, or to love you, start by loving you. I am not saying it’s easy, but I am also saying enjoy being single and if it happens that you find that someone, you wont have regrets about never being able to enjoy being single before settling down.

The grass is not always greener on the other side, and even if it seems to be, it may just be artificial turf.

As a self described idealistic I never consider myself as single. I like to say that I’m in between romances at the moment.” ….Carl Henegan (Author of Yesterday’s Darkness)

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Anger “ Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean .” Maya Angelou I must confess that sometimes I blow off steam by getting upset. I will allow things to build up and then when I feel overwhelmed, I explode for the simplest thing. There was a time when I used to feel really bad when I got upset, but I’m beginning to learn that it is good to let off steam, sometimes. Anger can be positive and I know that after I calm down I tend to see things differently. I actually make an effort to see what I can change about the situation that upset me in the first place. While anger can also be disruptive and can cause hurt, it can be used for good. In fact, anger tends to motivate me to work harder and to achieve my goals. I know that I can be hard on myself – feeling that I fail if I do not live up to my own expectations. I know that unbridled anger can have negative health effects, but so can holding anger in. I remember reading abo...

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I realize that we sometimes get so caught up we cuss when we face some of life’s challenges. Even the smallest thing can sometimes get our goat. Today, I’m resolving to be grateful for life’s challenges for many reasons. Challenges help me garner experience; if I made a bad decision once, when faced with the same situation in the future, it is unlikely that I will make the same mistake again. There is more than a little truth to the old adage experience teaches wisdom . While I know that many people have lost their jobs and it has caused all sorts of financial challenges, I know more than a few for whom being fired has been a blessing in disguise. Just recently, a young woman I know with four kids to take care lost her job. I was worrying about her, even though I knew she didn't like the job she had. A few weeks later, she landed another job, but even better, she was earning almost two-times what she was before. Others have taken the loss of a job as ...

Jamaica Public Service, Again

I’m so angry I could scream. I received my electricity bill from the Jamaica Public Service Company and once again the amount is staggering…a whopping five thousand plus dollars. This is just a measly $174 less than the previous month. The funniest part of it is the following: - I foolishly put in fluorescent bulbs since they claim that it lowers usage. - During the period billed we had 9 1/2 hours of power outages. Granted this is an estimate because it just covers the period when someone was home and was able to record the outage time. I knew there were outages when no one is home because I have an old fashion fax machine that spits out pieces of paper each time the power goes and returns. - We rarely leave an outside light on anymore So my question to JPS is: What am I to do to have my electricity bills at a reasonable rate? In the past two years my bill has jumped quite a lot. I really would love to know why this is happening. Sadly, consumers in Jamaica do not have much recour...

Anonymous said…

I love this. Been single all my life, and not once has anyone complained to me about not wearing pants at home. I like to think there's a connection, despite having no other relevant data. :P

7:52 PM

Jessica,
I've found that the best part about being single is discovering that you are good company! It's important to enjoy your own company, then you will KNOW what you are bringing to the table in a relationship. My most important relationship is my relationship with myself. Even flight attendants admonish us in the event of a crash put the oxygen (give your self life) first, & then on the person next to you (companion). Great post!

10:35 PM

Jessica McCurdy Crooks said…

Thank you and yes, even though I am now married, whenever friends complain about needing to find someone I tell them to enjoy being single. I like your comment re enjoying your own company so you know what you are bringing to a relationship.

3:25 AM

Thanks for making me smile, Brandon and thank you for visiting.

3:26 AM

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