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Watching from the Sidelines - Others Succeeding, Why Aren't You

 

Have you ever stopped to wonder why it is that some people who started from the same place as you seem to have grown and achieve so much more than you did.  I know I have and it took me a while to figure out the difference between their success and my lack of success. Three things stood out after I evaluated the situation. You want to know what they are?  Let’s look:

1.     Consistency: They were consistent and even when they failed, they kept going. I know a few people in the finance space who are now known and respected globally. They started from the same place I did, but they kept at it even when the going was slow. They kept at it even when others told them it wasn’t going to work.

Consistency was key…. One drip at a time. 

2.     Firm Believe in Self:   Having support when building a business is important, but to begin, you must believe in yourself and know that you can! You are not what the devil or any negative voice say that you are. You must believe in yourself and be confident in what you are doing. 

3.     Mentors and Support: While some people do well without mentors, having mentors can be a game changer. However, the mentorship relationship has to be one of mutual respect. A mentor can help you see what you need to work on or do different. They can be a great cheerleader as well as the type of teacher you need. 

From my experience, one sure way to never succeed is to keep starting over from scratch. All you will accomplish is a continual feeling of falling behind, instead, keep pushing, keep believing and use the mistakes and missteps as learning tools. From your failure learn what work and what didn’t – so you can move forward with increased knowledge.

Now, I am not saying that if something is not working you are to keep at it. I am saying that you are not to keep quitting without trying while you look for the easy way and perfection. Sometimes success is messy, very messy, so learn to see the nuggets in the mud and pull them out to help you build the life you want.

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