What Happens When the Other Woman Decides She Wants to be The Woman?

During my usual browsing of the Internet I came across an interesting headline, Europe’s Last Witch, on MSN.com. Being a curious person I wanted to know more about this woman and why she was deemed a witch. While expecting to read something current, it turned out her story spans centuries.

Based on what I found out, the woman, Anna Göldi or Göldin according to some sources had her head cut off on charges of witchcrfaft. Sadly, her story came about because of a love affair. Aparently, Anna had a relationship with her married boss. When Anna threatened to make the affiar public, her boss, Johann Jakob Tschudi made a public outcry that she was a witch. Tschudi said that Anna used supernatural powers to put needles into the milk and bread of his daughters. Göldi was exonerated by the Glarus (Switzerland) government in October 2008.

This brought to mind a discussion I just had with a member of the clergy. A pastor decided to go outside of his marriage and started a relationship. Apparently all was well as ‘the other woman’ was quite content to be just that. However, as the relationship progressed she decided that she now wants to be the ‘main woman – the wife’.

Was this the case with Anna? Did she after six (6) years decide that she wanted more from this relationship. We will never know, but it is a fact of life that many mistresses eventually want to become the main woman in a man’s life.

Some do get their wishes as the man leaves wife and family for them. A few of these outside relationships may end pleasantly as the lovers end up having a good marriage, but many do not. A few years ago I saw a grown man weep that he left his ‘good wife’ for a sexy young girl who had made his life a misery. I was torn between pity and loathing, especially when I found out he and his wife had young children. He desperately wanted to go back to his wife but she didn’t want him.

Many mistresses use the threat of disclosing the affair as a tool of control. However, the results can never be predicted. When children are in the mix, it’s even worse. There are so many studies which show the impact of divorce on children. If the thought of cheating crosses a person’s (male or female) mind it would be good to take a moment to think through all the possible repercussions and ask yourself the question, “Will a few moments of excitement be worth the lifetime of pain and suffering that could result?”